Know Your Worth.

People make time for the things they want in their lives. 

If your significant other says they’re always thinking of you, but haven’t called in a week, and there’s nothing wrong with their phone, their words mean nothing. Even if something was wrong with their phone, they could borrow one to say they miss you. 

The same goes for friends. There’s a difference between being the ring leader who always makes the plans, and the naggy person who keeps reaching out because you know that if you don’t, they won’t reach out to you. 

You are too amazing to waste your time on anyone who doesn’t value it. 

I challenge you to give things the same mentality as people. 

If you want to learn to play guitar, and you own a guitar, or know someone who will let you borrow one, but you never bother to pick it up or take lessons – even YouTube lessons – are you sure you want to learn the guitar?

What are you doing with your time? Is it helping you? Growing you? 

I’m not saying you can’t spend a night on the couch. That can be helpful. Maybe you had a bad day and a few hours of comedy will put you in a better mood. 

But in the long run, is the way that you are spending your time helping you achieve your goals?

You are smart. You’re talented. You’re beautiful. You’re worth it. 

You deserve to reach your goals. 

You deserve love and acceptance. 

It all starts with believing that.

So do me a favor: grab a pen and paper. Write down one long term and one short term goal. Now break those down into smaller steps. Repeat as much as necessary – these are your steps, for your success. You make them as small or as big as you need. 

Now post that paper somewhere you’ll see every day. And each morning, look in the mirror and say, “I am worth it. I deserve this.” Repeat until you believe it. And then keep repeating just because it makes you feel cool in the morning 😎

Have a blessed and productive week, everyone! 

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You Are…

You are beautiful.

You are smart.

You are kind.

You matter.

You are loved.

You are here for a reason.

The world would not be the same without you.

You deserve happiness.

You deserve love.

You deserve peace.

You deserve hope.

These are coming. Dark times cannot last forever.

You are exactly where you need to be. Get out there and conquer your week! 🙂

Chase your Dreams. Chase your Meaning.

Christina Grimmie, one of my greatest inspirations in music, was murdered this weekend. She was 22 years old.

I did not know Christina, nor did I get a chance to go to any of her shows, but I followed her journey as she rose to fame on YouTube, purchased every single song she released to support her career, and voted for her repeatedly when she competed on The Voice.

Christina was everything I ever aspired to be – talented, beautiful, kind. She wanted to share her voice with the world, and began posting videos on YouTube when she was only 15 years old. She recorded these in her bedroom with her keyboard and laptop, because at the time that was all she had.

I was always too nervous to put myself out there like that… afraid that I would put in the work recording and editing and then nobody would watch it. I was also afraid that people would watch my videos, and either hate them or decide my talent was average but not enough to keep them coming back to my channel.

I don’t know if Christina was nervous about any of that, but if she was she overcame it.

She believed in Jesus Christ, and shared her faith everywhere she went – in her videos, interviews, during meet & greets – as her influence grew, she only used it for good.

I’m angry that such a wonderful girl’s life could be taken so soon…but also thankful that when she died this girl was living her dream. She wasn’t wondering what would happen if she went for it – she was doing it.

I often wonder, if I were to die tomorrow, what would people say about me? I don’t have any friends, but I bet there are a lot of people who would claim they wish they’d gotten to know me better. I think people would say I had so much life ahead of me and so many plans… but the truth is, in 23 years, I really haven’t done anything.

Sure, I got a degree, I got a “real” job… but those are things I felt I had to or was supposed to do, not things I necessarily wanted to do.

Christina was doing something. She loved performing, she worked for it, and she did it. She was reaching people, she was making a difference, and now she’s gone.

We’re still here… but are we making a difference? Are our lives meaningful?

If there is something that you want, chase it. Chase it in whatever way you can. Maybe you can’t afford a cooking class, but you can look up recipes online. Don’t let anyone stop you from chasing it. If it’s something that’s going to take years for you to achieve, let it take years. Spend your entire life going after it. Don’t let anyone judge your progress – only you truly know your abilities and your progress.

If I could talk to Christina, I would tell her thank you. Thank you for inspiring me, for being the greatest example for a young woman of how to live life. How to always exude love and kindness. How to spread joy.

I think we’re all here for a reason – each and everyone one of us has a purpose. I’ll be honest with you, I have no idea what mine is yet, but I pray that we all find it. We deserve that.

This post is not meant to make anyone feel like they’re behind in their journey, as I always say and strongly believe: you are exactly where you are meant to be. I was simply so touched by this tragedy, and inspired to work harder at my own life, that I wanted to share that this week.

To read what happened to Christina, click here. Check out her YouTube channel here.

Today is Today

I’m going to keep today’s post short and sweet, because this week I decided to make a video talking about the importance of friendship and not attacking those who are going through a hard time.

Try not to look at life is a huge mass of 100 years (give or take). Look at each day on it’s own, to the best that you can.

What do you want to do today? What do you want to achieve?

Let go of what you didn’t achieve yesterday.

Let go of what you can’t achieve until tomorrow, because you’re waiting to hear back about a job, or on a date from a friend, or for a paycheck, etc.

Today is today.

Today is your day.

Do with it what you will.

Do something that makes you smile.

You’re exactly where you need to be.