I have to footnote this with, obviously at work you have to perform to your boss’ standards, meeting their deadlines, etc…
But I’m meaning to share this more in light of comparison – your best work may not be the same as the best work of the guy who sits next to you and that’s okay.
Look at how you spend your time – are you striving to please someone else?
Are YOU proud of you?
You can train your thoughts to be more positive over time by starting the day listing the things you’re grateful for and ending the day focusing on the things that went right.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “life happens to your plans.”
My mom says it a lot because we have lots of Type-A people in the family who enjoy planning and organizing and like everything to be in it’s place and happen according to plan.
According to the life plan I made when I was around 8 years old, this is the year I’m supposed to get engaged. Haha. I’m also supposed to have published a book and be working on my second album.
The only thing I can tell 8 year old me I did successfully is complete the first album. But all the songs are in the demo stage, live on my phone/laptop, and maybe 20 people have heard them.
Plans are crucial to attaining your goals, but give yourself some wiggle room for other things to happen.
I can’t tell you how many people I’ve talked with who, like me, thought they would get a full time job right out of college. Because when we were younger everyone said “you have to go to college to get a job with a competitive salary.” So we thought that job and salary was the next step after graduation.
They don’t tell you how hard it is to find said job, how it takes months, sometimes years, to get there.
So when you find yourself off track from your plans…remember it’s okay to not have it all figured out. That’s what life is – endless days of figuring it out.
Look around at the gift of nature God gave to us.
Flowers bloom slowly…but with a little water and sunlight they grow strong and beautiful.
They’re a reminder for us to feed our bodies and souls, not to rush and not to worry, and everything will be accomplished.
When I was about 10, my best friend’s little sister asked me to carry her. We were at a church picnic, she was tired and didn’t feel like walking down the steps. She was maybe 5 at the time, but I wasn’t a great deal bigger than her. I tripped while carrying her down the stairs.
Besides a small scratch on her arm, she was fine. She didn’t even cry. But I did. I refused to hold another child for a while after that. I stayed far away from babies.
Sometimes forgiving yourself is harder than earning the forgiveness of others.
This can really hold you back.
Whatever you did…it’s in the past. You can start again, you can rebuild, you can move forward. Grant yourself permission ❤️
Just saw this quote on fb and wanted to share: “You cannot heal in the same environment where you got sick.”
Let’s reflect on this for a minute.
There’s a reason doctors say to change your toothbrush after an illness, right? It holds the virus/bacteria and will make you sick again. People go to hospitals to be treated in sterile environments.
How about emotional health? Those suffering in physical or emotionally abusive relationships have to be removed from the relationship before they can begin to heal.
On the flip side, this is not to say you should pick up and move whenever something bad happens.
Say there’s an incident at work and you need to find a new job – a new job in the same city is still a new environment.
Have a toxic friend? Distancing yourself from them, choosing different hangouts, not inviting them over, etc. will change your environment. You don’t need to move across the country.
Unless you want to move across the country, out of the country, and you have the means…then do you! Enjoy yourself!
How are you doing? Are you trying to heal in the environment where you got sick? Is it time for a change?
As someone who has struggled on and off with depression, I know what a huge difference it makes to have a friend reach out, or a stranger offer a smile.
Throughout your day today, go out of your way to help someone. It doesn’t have to be big. I’m talking about smiling at each person you pass. Complimenting the person standing next to you in the elevator instead of staring at the floor in awkward silence.
Maybe call/text/email that friend you’ve been thinking about that you haven’t heard from in a while.
Have a great day!