But if you aren’t the first, that doesn’t mean you lose. The opportunity is still there for you to forgive in your own time.
Forgetting is not always possible, or in our best interest to you. Take the time to think about your situation. What do you value about the relationship? How will apologizing affect it? How will forgiving the other person, or yourself, help you mentally and emotionally?
And finally, will forgetting about it help you? Maybe it’s a best friend and forgive & forget is what you live by to keep your friendship strong. But maybe it’s a toxic relationship, and though they’ve apologized and you’ve forgiven, you need to remember to distance yourself from them.
Make the best decision for your mental health.
I am confident there is not a single task in life that one cannot attempt to be talked out of.
You may be so determined that you can’t be talked out of it, which could be great, but there will always be a reason not to do it.
So when making your next pro/con list, instead of focusing on which list is longer, reprioritize each list. How many things are on there out of fear? Is it hurting anyone? Do you need help with it? Where can you get that?
And then focus on your pros. It could be as simple as, “I want to create a painting.”
Pro: I’m inspired.
Con: I’ve never painted before.
This con can spiral into, “I’ll be terrible at it. No one will like it. I’ll fail.”
But you can take a class. You can study. Ask someone who does paint for advice. Remind yourself it’s your first painting and it doesn’t have to be great. It’s a start.
Find a way today, friends!
We are all on our own paths.
Even if your goal is similar to someone else’s, you have completely different journeys, different reasons, different backgrounds, different experiences.
Last week’s passion planner quote was from Henry Ford: “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.”
Your thoughts and beliefs have so much power your actions.
Try to change your attitude when approaching your goals. Go beyond “I think I can” but say “I can.” This does not mean you will do it the first time. Or even the tenth. But if you practice and believe and keep at it with positivity – your progress will surprise you.
Push yourself, because nobody is going to do it for you.
It would be wonderful to have my own personal cheerleader & life coach to get me out of bed earlier for yoga, stop me from binge watching Netflix to write, constantly refill my water to make sure I drink it, and force me to exercise. But I don’t have that.
It’s easy to tell yourself you can’t do something if you don’t have the support.
I, for example, blame my lack of working on music on not having someone to write with and bounce ideas off of, because my ideas aren’t good enough on their own. I blame my lack of sharing my creations with the world on not having a camera and fancy editing software, but I have a phone and basic editing software.
What if we were to create and share, and then other creatives found us? Then we could collaborate.
Let’s start 2018 running after our goals. I’m behind you 100% – whatever it is. I’ll be your cheerleader 📣 Get going!
I love doing yoga, but I’ve never completed a 30 day yoga challenge in 30 days. Something always gets in the way: I have to work late one night, I get invited somewhere and it sucks the time out of the day, etc.
Last week I was more determined than ever to complete a 30 day challenge. I was on day 10 when I got sick. At first I just had a sore throat, so I completed days 11 and 12, but then the night sweats and body aches started. I was too weak to roll over in bed, nonetheless hold myself in a downward dog.
That was 5 days ago. Today was the first day I felt well enough to complete day 13 of the challenge. I almost didn’t do it because I was so disappointed that I’d once again failed to complete it in 30 days.
That’s when I was reminded that it’s more about the journey than the destination, and I completed day 13.
Whatever goals you are working towards, it is inevitable that you will experience setbacks, but don’t let those stop you from pushing forward.
Maybe your original goal was 1 year and in the end it takes you 5, but at least after those 5 you get to say you did it. So much of life is trial and error. We don’t really know how long it will take us to do something until we try it.
You’ll get frustrated, angry, sad, and want to give up. Channel & use that emotion to keep pushing forward 👊🏽
If you’re trying to make a decision, limit your time to make it.
You will always find reasons to talk yourself out of something.
What did your gut say the first time you thought about it? Why did you want to do it?
If you’re a pro/con list maker, don’t dwell on your list. Give yourself a specific time limit to review it, remember that the longer list doesn’t necessarily have the more valuable items on it, and then jump in.
Be thankful for uniqueness. No two minds are alike. Your thoughts are your own. Your creations are your own. No one else can be you ❤️
Have you heard of speaking something into existence? It’s possible. It happens.
Just because someone says something doesn’t make it so, but when hearing the same thing over and over we tend to believe it – especially the things we tell ourselves.
It seems silly, but I promise it works: stand in the mirror for even just 2 minutes each morning and practice self love with words of affirmation.
When you catch yourself saying you’re not good enough / pretty enough / thin enough / smart enough / just plain enough, ask yourself if you would say these things to your child, your parent, or your best friend.
So why say it to yourself?
Whether it’s a negative thing that you feel ruined your life or a positive thing that you long to relive, I think all of us have struggled with focusing on the past at one time or another.
The past cannot be erased and should not be forgotten. Memories drive a lot of our decisions – how do you know you love roller coasters? Because of the thrilling memory of your last theme park adventure.
That being said, it’s important not to dwell on the past. If you find yourself having thoughts of “this can never live up to that, so there’s no point in trying” take a step back and stop yourself. Say no to these thoughts.
I struggle with returning to music, because I was so good at my instruments in high school. I wrote an entire album that my friends loved. When I fell into depression, I didn’t touch my instruments for years. Now I’m back at a beginner level, and for a long time I would stare at my guitar and think, “I’ll never be as good as I was, so why bother?” And I didn’t. It sat there and collected dust for years.
Back to the roller coaster example, there had to be an initial decision to try it before the memory could be formed. I had to learn to play guitar and piano before I could write and share songs.
It’s possible to start again. Things are changing every day. New opportunities are popping up all the time 😊
Change is inevitable. Even if you were to live in the same place and work the same job your whole life, you will get older. Friends will come and go. Management and coworkers will change.
We don’t always get a roadmap. Sometimes all we get is a feeling that it’s time. Listen to that. You might not know what it’s time for, exactly. Should you move? Down the street or out of the country? Should you look for a new job? Should you take piano lessons? Should you go back to school?
The specifics are hard. But you will feel it when it’s time for a change, and then keep your eyes peeled for the opportunities.
It may help to plan for the changes, such as building a savings account if you think you may want to go back to school some day. Start networking so you have connections to reach out to should you desire a job change.
How are you embracing change?