I love doing yoga, but I’ve never completed a 30 day yoga challenge in 30 days. Something always gets in the way: I have to work late one night, I get invited somewhere and it sucks the time out of the day, etc.
Last week I was more determined than ever to complete a 30 day challenge. I was on day 10 when I got sick. At first I just had a sore throat, so I completed days 11 and 12, but then the night sweats and body aches started. I was too weak to roll over in bed, nonetheless hold myself in a downward dog.
That was 5 days ago. Today was the first day I felt well enough to complete day 13 of the challenge. I almost didn’t do it because I was so disappointed that I’d once again failed to complete it in 30 days.
That’s when I was reminded that it’s more about the journey than the destination, and I completed day 13.
Whatever goals you are working towards, it is inevitable that you will experience setbacks, but don’t let those stop you from pushing forward.
Maybe your original goal was 1 year and in the end it takes you 5, but at least after those 5 you get to say you did it. So much of life is trial and error. We don’t really know how long it will take us to do something until we try it.
You’ll get frustrated, angry, sad, and want to give up. Channel & use that emotion to keep pushing forward 👊🏽
If you’re trying to make a decision, limit your time to make it.
You will always find reasons to talk yourself out of something.
What did your gut say the first time you thought about it? Why did you want to do it?
If you’re a pro/con list maker, don’t dwell on your list. Give yourself a specific time limit to review it, remember that the longer list doesn’t necessarily have the more valuable items on it, and then jump in.
Be thankful for uniqueness. No two minds are alike. Your thoughts are your own. Your creations are your own. No one else can be you ❤️
Have you heard of speaking something into existence? It’s possible. It happens.
Just because someone says something doesn’t make it so, but when hearing the same thing over and over we tend to believe it – especially the things we tell ourselves.
It seems silly, but I promise it works: stand in the mirror for even just 2 minutes each morning and practice self love with words of affirmation.
When you catch yourself saying you’re not good enough / pretty enough / thin enough / smart enough / just plain enough, ask yourself if you would say these things to your child, your parent, or your best friend.
So why say it to yourself?
Whether it’s a negative thing that you feel ruined your life or a positive thing that you long to relive, I think all of us have struggled with focusing on the past at one time or another.
The past cannot be erased and should not be forgotten. Memories drive a lot of our decisions – how do you know you love roller coasters? Because of the thrilling memory of your last theme park adventure.
That being said, it’s important not to dwell on the past. If you find yourself having thoughts of “this can never live up to that, so there’s no point in trying” take a step back and stop yourself. Say no to these thoughts.
I struggle with returning to music, because I was so good at my instruments in high school. I wrote an entire album that my friends loved. When I fell into depression, I didn’t touch my instruments for years. Now I’m back at a beginner level, and for a long time I would stare at my guitar and think, “I’ll never be as good as I was, so why bother?” And I didn’t. It sat there and collected dust for years.
Back to the roller coaster example, there had to be an initial decision to try it before the memory could be formed. I had to learn to play guitar and piano before I could write and share songs.
It’s possible to start again. Things are changing every day. New opportunities are popping up all the time 😊
Change is inevitable. Even if you were to live in the same place and work the same job your whole life, you will get older. Friends will come and go. Management and coworkers will change.
We don’t always get a roadmap. Sometimes all we get is a feeling that it’s time. Listen to that. You might not know what it’s time for, exactly. Should you move? Down the street or out of the country? Should you look for a new job? Should you take piano lessons? Should you go back to school?
The specifics are hard. But you will feel it when it’s time for a change, and then keep your eyes peeled for the opportunities.
It may help to plan for the changes, such as building a savings account if you think you may want to go back to school some day. Start networking so you have connections to reach out to should you desire a job change.
How are you embracing change?
Where has that ever gotten you?
What good does it bring?
Giving everyone else exactly what they want will not guarantee no disappointment.
It will not make their opinions go away.
Is your stress worth it?
Today’s Shine text is so relevant in my life so I had to share!
There have been various issues at work this week that everyone is whispering about but no one wanted to openly attack head on. Needless to say, nothing has been resolved.
If you’re uncomfortable, if process is breaking down, if you see something that’s not as it should be…say something. Do something about it.
Staying silent in the name of saving face or not hurting someone’s feelings or thinking that your opinion doesn’t matter never helped anyone.
Your opinion matters. Share it. Even if it makes people uncomfortable. Growth happens outside of the comfort zone anyway 😊
Today’s Shine text is about isolating the incident. The example they gave is acknowledging that spilling your coffee is one bad thing in the day but doesn’t make it a bad day.
We all have those unfortunate days where multiple bad things happen, but take a step back with each incident, take a deep breath, and push on. Try not to let it affect every interaction you have going forward.
Inspired by yesterday’s Shine text, “Feel awkward saying no when you’re not up for something? Boundaries shouldn’t = guilt. Today, swap “I can’t” w/ “I don’t” let’s talk about boundaries.
It’s okay to say no to that thing you were invited to. Maybe you haven’t seen the person who invited you in a while, but maybe you haven’t had a day to relax in a while either.
Don’t burn yourself out to keep up appearances. You don’t have to go to EVERY office happy hour. You don’t have to spend 3 hours listen to that friend vent when you only have 2 hours to spare that day.
Control your time – don’t let it control you.