I have to footnote this with, obviously at work you have to perform to your boss’ standards, meeting their deadlines, etc…
But I’m meaning to share this more in light of comparison – your best work may not be the same as the best work of the guy who sits next to you and that’s okay.
Look at how you spend your time – are you striving to please someone else?
Are YOU proud of you?
You can train your thoughts to be more positive over time by starting the day listing the things you’re grateful for and ending the day focusing on the things that went right.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “life happens to your plans.”
My mom says it a lot because we have lots of Type-A people in the family who enjoy planning and organizing and like everything to be in it’s place and happen according to plan.
According to the life plan I made when I was around 8 years old, this is the year I’m supposed to get engaged. Haha. I’m also supposed to have published a book and be working on my second album.
The only thing I can tell 8 year old me I did successfully is complete the first album. But all the songs are in the demo stage, live on my phone/laptop, and maybe 20 people have heard them.
Plans are crucial to attaining your goals, but give yourself some wiggle room for other things to happen.
I can’t tell you how many people I’ve talked with who, like me, thought they would get a full time job right out of college. Because when we were younger everyone said “you have to go to college to get a job with a competitive salary.” So we thought that job and salary was the next step after graduation.
They don’t tell you how hard it is to find said job, how it takes months, sometimes years, to get there.
So when you find yourself off track from your plans…remember it’s okay to not have it all figured out. That’s what life is – endless days of figuring it out.
Look around at the gift of nature God gave to us.
Flowers bloom slowly…but with a little water and sunlight they grow strong and beautiful.
They’re a reminder for us to feed our bodies and souls, not to rush and not to worry, and everything will be accomplished.
When I was about 10, my best friend’s little sister asked me to carry her. We were at a church picnic, she was tired and didn’t feel like walking down the steps. She was maybe 5 at the time, but I wasn’t a great deal bigger than her. I tripped while carrying her down the stairs.
Besides a small scratch on her arm, she was fine. She didn’t even cry. But I did. I refused to hold another child for a while after that. I stayed far away from babies.
Sometimes forgiving yourself is harder than earning the forgiveness of others.
This can really hold you back.
Whatever you did…it’s in the past. You can start again, you can rebuild, you can move forward. Grant yourself permission ❤️
I don’t share this to discourage celebration – it’s a beautiful part of life to celebrate our achievements and create special occasions.
I share this to encourage you not to hold yourself back by waiting for the right time.
Evaluate your reasoning. Are you delaying returning to school because you want to be financially stable, or because it’s not the right time and you have a 5 year plan that puts you on track to return to school at a certain age?
Similarly, it can be helpful to reward yourself for certain habits, like buying that thing on your wishlist as a reward for saving money. But don’t forget to reward yourself just because.
If you want a nice dinner, a spa day, to see a movie, whatever it is…go do it. Because you’re alive and you deserve to. It doesn’t have to be special. You make it special.
Look lovely today, think happy thoughts 😊