Just saw this quote on fb and wanted to share: “You cannot heal in the same environment where you got sick.”
Let’s reflect on this for a minute.
There’s a reason doctors say to change your toothbrush after an illness, right? It holds the virus/bacteria and will make you sick again. People go to hospitals to be treated in sterile environments.
How about emotional health? Those suffering in physical or emotionally abusive relationships have to be removed from the relationship before they can begin to heal.
On the flip side, this is not to say you should pick up and move whenever something bad happens.
Say there’s an incident at work and you need to find a new job – a new job in the same city is still a new environment.
Have a toxic friend? Distancing yourself from them, choosing different hangouts, not inviting them over, etc. will change your environment. You don’t need to move across the country.
Unless you want to move across the country, out of the country, and you have the means…then do you! Enjoy yourself!
How are you doing? Are you trying to heal in the environment where you got sick? Is it time for a change?
We’ve heard it all before, “If you’re going to pray, why worry? If you’re going to worry, why pray?” … “Worrying is a waste of time” … “Let go and let God” … “Don’t worry” …
But how do we actually stop worrying about the things that ail us?
For those of us that pray, do we not pray for situations to turn in our favor, or the favor of our loved ones? Even if the prayer is “let your will be done” do we not pray that with a silent wish as to what that will is?
When someone is wrestling with something, telling them not to worry is like telling a terrified person not to be afraid – they’re already afraid. They’re already worrying.
It makes more sense to me to acknowledge that which worries us, and make a conscious effort to focus on other things.
What are your thoughts? How do you push the worries away?
I read a quote on Instagram today that said “you’re a human BEing not a human DOing, focus on who you want to be and you’ll be lead to actions to support that.
I love this because some of us get so caught up in not liking our every day tasks at work that we forget where doing those tasks for a bit may lead us. We complain about things that bother us or frustrate us, ignoring how those experiences are shaping us for the future.
Who do you want to be?
Work to make sure your happiness does not lie in another.
People will always disappoint you – it’s sad, but true. It won’t always be of their doing. We can’t control whether a friend moves away, a significant other loses interest, or a family member dies.
If another person is the key to your smile, your world will fall apart when they fail, and it’s up to you to pick yourself back up.
This negative stigma around selfishness needs to be fought. Yes, we should be there for and help one another to the best of our abilities, but not to the detriment of our own health.
Notice where your happiness lies today.
Today’s Shine text: “We often think low expectations protect us from possible failure. Truth is? We’re just blocking our opportunities.”
What are your expectations doing to your opportunities?
Remember: upgrade your belief to match your vision.
Just because you can’t see HOW something will turn out at the current time doesn’t mean there isn’t a way.
If you could go back and talk to your 10 year old self today, what would you say? Would they be proud of you? What advice would you give them?
How do you finish that sentence? What will make you happy? Is it a certain age, job, vacation, home?
I’ve been told that happiness is wanting what you have. But how do you learn how to do that?
Say you like new, but you have an old hand me down car, and it’s green, and you hate the color green. You take care of it, but the heat and AC don’t work, the speakers crackle which drives you insane, and it’s not a smooth ride. It constantly breaks down, and you’re spending countless dollars every month getting various things fixed.
I think it’s safe to say this car doesn’t make you happy, and you don’t want the car. You may NEED it to get to work, but you WANT a different car.
If you can afford it, I think upgrading your car could make you happy in this case.
So I don’t really think happiness is always wanting what you have. I think it’s more about recognizing the things you can be grateful for.
You can start a savings plan for your new car, and stop harborig hate for your current car by being grateful that it gets you where you need to go. You may not call this “happy” – but it can give you a sense of calm on your journey to something that brings you happiness.
Complete this sentence with the people and things you currently surround yourself with.
Are they helping you and growing you, or are they holding you back?
Why did you choose these people or these things?
What changes can you make going forward to keep yourself on a positive track?
Most of us fear failure, but have you ever thought that you might also fear success?
I used to dream about being a pop star. When I went to college for music, I was surrounded with more talented people with the same dream. I would write 1 song in the time my roommate would write 5, and the guy down the hall would write 10.
I felt inadequate.
I started thinking, what if nobody likes my music? What if they hate my voice? What if I spend my life trying to get into this business and never make it?
That was the failure.
But I believed in myself. I kept at it.
Then came fear of success.
What if I make it?
What if people love my music? What if I get to go on tour? What if I can buy my parents a house? … Will I get to have a family? Will I like living on the road 90% of the time? Can I handle the spotlight? Can I deal with the criticism? What if I regret it? I’m comfortable with the way things are…do I really want them to change?
It’s a strange feeling… fearing success. It’s gripping. More so than fear of failure. Being afraid to fail motivates me to try to prove myself wrong…but being afraid to succeed gives me a reason not to try.
If you’re afraid to succeed, evaluate what it is you actually want, and why you want it. You may find that you don’t like your reasoning, and your true desires are in a completely different direction.
Listen to yourself. Evaluate your fear.
What do you want?
Who told you that you can’t succeed and why did you listen?