Last night was one of those nights I went to bed thinking, “God, I don’t want to wake up tomorrow.”
I didn’t want to wake up in this world, in this version of America where every passing day tells me that I will always be sad, angry, and tired, because as a woman and a minority I will always be undervalued and overlooked.
Many days I think God doesn’t care about me. I watch other people falling in love and it reminds me of the string of tragedies that has been my romantic experience. I watch other people go out and party excessively, but still manage to pop up and make it to work, and wonder why I’m having a hard time just getting off of the couch to do a 10 minute exercise video. I wonder why God isn’t blessing me because I’m “good.”
Comparison is the thief of all joy, and we are all on our own journey. I know I can’t keep comparing. I know that isn’t how it works.
People say just keep doing what you’re doing and God will show up. That infuriates me. Months of praying and worshipping and volunteering and waiting, to no avail, gets exhausting.
But God showed up for me today.
The second I got in the car, Danny Gokey’s “Haven’t Seen It Yet” was playing on the radio. If you know me, you know that music is my heart and soul, and God used that song to tell me He’s listening, He’s here, and I haven’t seen what He’s up to yet, but I will, I just need to be patient.
It’s a tiny thing. It made me happy for a short time, but it was enough to keep doing what I’m doing until the next time I ask God to take me away and He tells me no, and that I need to stay put.
I know it will happen again, because that’s how depression works. There will always be dark nights, or days, or weeks, or months, or seasons.
My trust in and love for God does not come from a place of Him making all the bad things disappear, but simply knowing that I can go to him in the midst of the inevitable bad things, and He will give me peace.
Too many Christians are missing this. Too many think there is only one good and right way to live, and our job is to both live that way and go out and force everyone else to do the same.
I don’t believe that is what we are called to do. I believe we are called to share the good news, as I have done here.
It’s on my heart to share this testimony of a low moment and how God brought me out of it… because I don’t think God liked the thoughts I was having last night. They did not please Him. I doubt God took any joy in me essentially asking Him to end my life, because He gave me the gift of life and I should appreciate that.
But I still had the thoughts. I’ve had them before, and I will have them again.
And God forgives me, because that’s who He is.
The same way He forgives any negative behavior, both one time and reoccurring, because He loves us. He gave us free will; He knew that would lead to mistakes. That’s okay. It’s how we learn.
Deep down, I think anger is just disguised fear. Being alone makes me angry because I feel like I deserve a partner, but I’m really afraid that lasting love is not in my future.
We seem to be so afraid of that which we don’t understand… so can we talk about it?
What if, instead of swaying another’s opinion or having our own heard, our goal was simply to understand?
What if each of us truly took steps to empathize? To cast aside our own background, experience, upbringing, and hear about another while actively attempting to understand and acknowledge their thoughts as valid?
What if doing so cost some of our power and influence? What if it changed our thought pattern?
What if we were inspired to do what we say we want and truly be equal… or admit that in our heart of hearts we want something else, entirely?
God showed up for me today, in the smallest of ways but it impacted my heart and I’m grateful for that. In a world where I don’t feel seen, heard, or supported, I appreciate my creator reminding me that I don’t need the world to support me. Just God.
Non-believers, if this doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t work for you. I’m fine with that. Let’s talk about what does work for you. What picks you up when you’re down? What keeps you going? What motivates you?
Believers, we cannot force the world into the design that God originally intended. It’s impossible. So please, let’s love and support each other. Fully. All of us.